In order to love someone, one needs to know that person: their quirks, their characteristics - both physical and internal, who they are & where they come from, the experiences that made them who they are today. This is being intimate with someone. No, one doesn’t need to touch someone to be intimate; one doesn’t need to kiss them to be intimate. Breaking down one’s walls is being intimate. Sharing one’s self with another is being intimate. Depending on what one decide to share with the other, this is what paves the way to the nature of their relationship.
But imagine this: what if you couldn’t see, touch, hear or feel a person? Would these things become a roadblock in the pathway of knowing someone and building that beautifully intimate relationship with that person? Does knowing that person through their spoken words, their actions, their physical characteristics suffice for you?
This is the situation we find ourselves in when it comes to the most important relationship in our lives, the one with He whom upon which all others ultimately depend and rely: Allah.
“And certainly We created man, and We know what his mind suggests to him, and We are nearer to him than his jugular vein.”
Surah Qāf, Ayah 16
A relationship is about exchange. It isn’t just take, take, take. It isn’t just give, give, give. It’s about an equal and balanced give & take proportion. Allah subhana wa ta’ala gives and gives to us: He puts a roof over our heads, food into our stomachs, clothing on our backs, beds to sleep in. But do we ever thank Him for these things we take for granted? Do we ever say alhamdulillah after that refreshing sip of water on a hot day? Do we ever say alhamdulillah for that amazing meal our moms just cooked us? Do we ever say alhamdulillah for waking in the morning?
Each and every single one of us have the opportunity to create a strong & personal bond with Allah subhana wa ta’ala. This is the one thing that drew me into Islam: everything is between you and Allah subhana wa ta’ala. There is no creation standing in the way between you and your Creator. But for many of us, Islam and Allah subhana wa ta’ala has become a series of rules, do’s & don’ts, fatwas, etc. Growing up in a Muslim household or when one is considering reverting to Islam, there is no talk about our hearts, about our feelings towards Allah subhana wa ta’ala, what we think about Him. It’s all what’s haraam and what’s halaal.
To create this beautiful relationship with Allah subhana wa ta’ala, dive into His words, characteristics and His actions. Open the Qur’an for these are the words of Allah subhana wa ta’ala. Read and get to know the names of Allah; know what they mean and remind yourself of them. Acknowledge the blessings Allah has give you; they are all around you. These are the ways we get to know Allah. This is how we create a relationship with Him.
There is no relationship more intimate and more rewarding than the relationship with Allah subhana wa ta’ala.